30 questions identifying patterns of control, disrespect and harm across communication, trust, respect and safety.
A red flag is a pattern of behaviour that signals potential harm, disrespect or control in a relationship. Individual incidents can sometimes be misunderstandings. Patterns — behaviours that repeat over time — are far more informative and are what this tool is designed to help you recognise.
Red flags do not always look like obvious abuse. They can be subtle: constant criticism framed as “just being honest”, jealousy framed as love, isolation framed as wanting to spend time together. This 30-question assessment covers a broad range of behaviours across control, communication, respect, trust and safety.
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Does your partner frequently check your phone, emails or social media without your permission?
Disclaimer: This tool is for informational and educational purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional for medical concerns.
